Saturday, October 22, 2016

The Open Pen >> 'Mum Friends'

Anonymous Bloggers

Another Open Pen post from a lovely anonymous blogger. This is one I am betting a lot of mums will relate to, I know I can. See what you think and if you have any words or tips for the writer, please leave them in the comments below and I'll make sure she gets to see them.

"Who needs friends? Me. Clearly.
At this particular point in my life, I am feeling pretty damn lonely. My closest friend recently moved really far away, another one of my closest friend just decided to sort of ditch me after that. I feel like I need some mummy friends, but I just don't know anyone around here. I haven't really been in this town that long, and I still don't really know anyone. It's not like I've never had friends, I had quite a few friends during school & college days, and we all sort of just..drifted apart. I had children, they went travelling. We didn't really have anything in common any more. Whenever I try to meet up with 'friends' or get to know people again, it feels like I have to do everything, I don't get anything in return. I don't feel like I'm even acknowledged some days and honestly, it feels like crap. Of course, I've got my other half, who is my best friend. But sometimes you just need another mum, or another woman to talk to. It's different than talking to your partner.

I need some friends to actually go out with, some mummy friends to go on play dates with. I feel like such a loser at times, when people are always posting photos of amazing places & people they were with and I'm like "Yeah dude, I'm lying in bed watching Eastenders, feeling sorry for myself".

It's not like I don't put the effort in to make friends, or reconnect with old friends either, I do, all the time. I go out to mummy groups, I start up conversations. I try to be nice & invite people places, but it just doesn't work. 

So aside for all this feeling sorry for myself, my question is..
Am I doomed to be friend less forever more?
How do an adult..make friends?! 
Girl friends, Mummy friends."

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